When we rush to ‘block’, ‘not feel’, ‘shut down’ the strong emotions that rise up within us, we extinguish the chance of being shown something. Something worthy of our love. Something seeking our protection.

It disturbs the possibility of finding the parts of us that are asking to be seen.
A hurt. A strength. A tenderness. A guiding value.

“So my anger isn’t something that needs to be ‘fixed’… Because the root of it is me being passionate about justice, healing and fairness” a participant mentioned during our time together. They recognised the root of their anger as a strength that they could work with and transform, rather than feeling shamed and gaslit by the label of ‘angry’ and feeling the need to be ‘quiet, calm and positive’ all the time.

At times when we bypass our [sensitivity / anger / fear / sadness / jealousy / … ] we might also bypass recognising our strengths and gifts. This isn’t to say that we over-attend to, or be crushed by the weight of the emotion. But - if safe - to allow it to take a seat and be intentional with it.

Chances are, it’s pointing us towards something worth loving and protecting.

I was recently asked why I always bring my work back to relationships. And well... how can I not?

Our healing isn’t just about ourselves.

Our healing is connected to the healing of others.

How we relate to others is a reflection of how we relate to ourselves. When you imagine what healing, clarity and wholeness is possible for yourself, you’ll have a better idea on what healing, clarity and wholeness is possible in your partnerships, your family, your friends, and your communities.

This might seem more evident when we talk about intergenerational healing, such as with a parent with their child. But these patterns, behaviours, triggers, thoughts and wounds also extend to relationships with family, partners, workspaces, organisations and belief systems.

Apart from the immediate impact, I also strongly believe how we relate to each other has an impact on a global scale. So much about the state of the world today and the policies in place that govern us are about how we were taught to relate to the other, how to perceive those we believe might be different to us, how much space we believe we can take and what rights we believe we have over others.

Our healing is connected to the healing of others.